Katie 17, 2012, 9:42 am july
We agree with you… i dunno. Its hard. I simply know personally i couldnt just let your ex glare at me personally for no reason… like, sorry woman, be angry at him. We have done absolutely nothing to you. But thats simply anyone I will be.
Like i stated, i wouldnt walk out my solution to you will need to speak to her, but she will turn her focus from the LW being an issue to the guy being the issue, which is what is going on if she sets the record straight with the girlfriend, hopefully.
Katie 17, 2012, 9:50 am july
As well as, exactly just what can you want to bet they talk all the time that he is feeding his new girlfriend the whole “crazy ex” routine to explain why? And was operating into one another actually just a coincidence?
Nadine July 17, 2012, 9:52 am
I am able to understand why you’ll believe means, it isnt nice never to be liked, but We browse the letter to be in regards to the LW relationship with ex-BF, maybe not the ex-BF relationship that is current. Thats simply a complicator. The LW can only just get a grip on her very own actions, and ignore the ex-BF calling and being aggravating. Their relationship with new GF is none of her company, and honestly, the two girls need not be buddies at all. It can you need to be yet another backlink to the man for the LW, that is attempting to cut psychological ties.
Katie 17, 2012, 9:54 am july
Thats a point that is good sure!
Nadine July 17, 2012, 10:01 am
Oh and god, we hate the crazy ex routine – I accustomed be buddies with this specific number of dudes whom accustomed have such lady-issues, and all sorts of the girls they dated would get crazy i’d get really surprised, cos they seemed so normal to me on them after a couple of weeks and? Then it was realised by me personally ended up beingn’t the girls, its the people. In addition to girls had been all people that are just normal, you realize, wished to determine if they’d a boyfriend or not…….
Katie July 17, 2012, 10:04 am
Yea. Its love, as soon as that takes place enough times- Sober dating sites what is the typical denominator? YOU MIGHT BE!!
I do feel harmful to this GF that is new. She deserves to own a guy’s complete attention. And she deserves some guy who isnt hung through to their ex, calling her and telling her he nevertheless longs for her and material. Thats messed up! And she most likely hates the LW since the man is telling her a couple of crap about her. Its simply all wrong. The whole thing.
Nadine 17, 2012, 10:09 am july
Personally I think bad she needs to look out for herself for her too, but. Its difficult being the first gf after a long relationship, but thats generally why many people go into all of them with their eyes spacious. Oh and the man has to end dropping “But We have a girlllllllfriend! ” into conversation. We keep imagining him carrying it out the real method the crossdresser does it in minimal Britain, maybe you have seen that? “Oh, but I’m a layyyyydeee! ”
Bagge72 July 17, 2012, 10:25 am
Yeah that “but I have girlfriend” line is such crap, the LW knows he is just looking for a reaction everytime he says it that he has a GF. He desires the LW become like “well I don’t care if you do have a GF, i am going to nevertheless blow you” or “Dump that skank, and get back to me”
Katie 17, 2012, 10:27 am july
Yea, its like whenever i was in senior high school and me personally and my boyfriend would split up any other week, and he would “accidently” text me personally or something just therefore we would fight and acquire right back together.
Lets_be_honest July 17, 2012, 2:45 pm
@katie, hahaha “just so we would fight and obtain right right right back together”
Kerrycontrary 17, 2012, 10:05 am july
I’ve said here a great deal, if the man whips out of the word “crazy” I operate one other means. I’m sure therefore men that are many utilize that word to hide because of their dickish behavior.
Will.i.am July 17, 2012, 11:56 am
I don’t understand why individuals would call some body crazy when you look at the beginning. I recently state we didn’t see eye to eye long-term and then leave it at that. The actual fact which you place a “crazy” label onto it, makes me think you may well be one that loves to stir the muck.
Will.i.am July 17, 2012, 11:57 am
Additionally, if you’re ready to phone some body crazy, wouldn’t which means that you may be kinda crazy too?
Rilooyah 17, 2012, 4:44 pm july
So real! When the” that is“crazy down, Im operating the other method. I believe it absolutely was stated above- whenever you attract the crazy, the denominator that is common constantly YOU, buddy.
Bagge72 17, 2012, 10:21 am july
The truth is, that its partially the LW’s fault, she understands that he could be in this relationship, and she’s knows that when this occurred to her she most likely could be upset about this too, and yet she continues to respond to this dudes calls despite the fact that he keeps stating that he’s dreaming about her, and all sorts of of the bull shit.
Lets_be_honest 17, 2012, 10:26 am july
Yep! We completely agree. LW, simply stop answering. Don’t talk for this woman since your simply likely to cause drama. You need to just understand he’s maybe maybe not your boyfriend as well as you nevertheless like their attention, the truth that you understand he has got a girlfriend is causing you to a bad guy in this too.
Katie July 17, 2012, 10:35 am
That is a point that is great you dudes. I didnt think of it like this.
So LW, them happyness, leave them alone!! Like eljay (i love you, eljay) said, someone has to be the adult in this situation if you really do respect their relationship and wish. If he could be perhaps not prepared to be, you should do it.
Painted_lady 17, 2012, 2:17 pm july
Amen bestie – we accept you about talking to your gf. That knows exactly exactly what this guy has said concerning the LW to justify their speaking so frequently, but even though the relationship is none of these company, the fact the LW plus the girlfriend that is new met now i do believe permits the LW some freedom. If I’d held it’s place in a scenario where a pal brought some body around that I experienced learned about and wished to be friends with (I’m likely to assume that the LW wishes that? ) and it went horribly, i would touch base and get, hey, I’m therefore sorry that went defectively. She does not fundamentally need certainly to state, “Hey, so that your boyfriend happens to be saying that is___ to me and he’s the main one calling, in which he explained you had been fine with this specific, ” just “Hey, I’m therefore sorry that went poorly, I became beneath the impression you had been ok with this being buddies, but i simply recognized I’m maybe not ok with your being friends either, therefore it’s no problem anymore. ”
Kerrycontrary July 17, 2012, 9:37 am
I wouldn’t keep in touch with the gf concerning this. If We were dating some body for 2 months the very last thing I would personally wish is their ex of three years reaching off to me personally. And simply to share with you which you respect her relationship? I would personally think you had been bullshitting me personally and head that is playing. Simply simply just Take Wendy’s advice and inform your ex partner you don’t wish to hear them alone from him for a while, and then leave. Seriously they probably won’t work-out them work that out themselves because you are still in the picture (which doesn’t do great things for a new relationship), but let.
Kerrycontrary 17, 2012, 9:39 am july
Oh in addition, that we leave immediately if I were the new girlfriend and my bf and I ran into his ex at a bar I would also demand. It is therefore uncomfortable. Everybody pretends they can be” that is“mature stay buddies with exes and stay totally okay as soon as your SO’s ex turns up, but why? You don’t have actually become OK with being around your boyfriends ex-girlfriend of 36 months.
Bagge72 July 17, 2012, 10:28 am